3 Keys to Transform Your Relationships

3 Keys to Transform Your Relationships

  1. Be the Best Version of Yourself: Be Authentic – that is being open, honest, straightforward, respectful to others, and accountable for the impact you have on others.
  2. Be Transparent – let your joy and confidence show. Listen attentively to others without a need to “top” their experiences or discount their beliefs. Life should not be a game of one-upmanship.
  3. Master behavioral agility – understand and appreciate the behavioral differences of others.

Oscar Wilde once said, “Be yourself, everyone else is already taken.”

Inspirational Quotes for an Empowered 2019!

Inspirational Quotes for an Amazing 2019

Happy New Year!

As we step into the New Year, we offer you our favorite quotes of inspiration. This month, find your own favorite quote that aligns with your authentic brand and values. It may boost your confidence, your passions, your engagement with others, and be a new call to action. We encourage you to periodically revisit your inspirational quote. Here are ours:


“Don’t ask what the world needs. Ask what makes you come alive, and go do it. Because what the world needs is people who have come alive.”
― Howard Thurman

 

Clyde Lowstuter
President & CEO, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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Carolyn Lowstuter Robertson Lowstuter Executive Coach

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, they will forget what you did, but they will never forget how you made them feel.”
― Maya Angelou

 

Carolyn Lowstuter
Executive Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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When was the last time you said to yourself, “I’m not perfect… But I’m enough.”
― Carl R. Rogers

 

Ron Hirasawa
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Almost everything will work again if you unplug it for a few minutes, including you.”
― Anne Lamott

 

Kathryn Hartrick
VP & General Counsel, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things.”
― Leonardo da Vinci

 

Dave Dallam
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“It always seems impossible until it’s done.”
― Nelson Mandela

 

Susan Snowden
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.”
― Colin Powell

 

Matt Gonring
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.”
― Pope John XXIII

 

Pat Mater
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“I learned that courage was not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it. The brave man is not he who does not feel afraid, but he who conquers that fear.”
― Nelson Mandela

 

David Filkin
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“An organization’s ability to learn, and translate that learning into action rapidly, is the ultimate competitive advantage.”
― Jack Welch

 

Anil Shah
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“The three great essentials to achieve anything worth while are: Hard work, Stick-to-itiveness, and Common sense.”
― Thomas A. Edison

 

Laurie Powles
EA/Office Manager, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.


“Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
― Mark Twain

 

Sharon Noha
Senior Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“I don’t believe you have to do better than everybody else. I believe you have to do better than you ever thought you could be.”
― Ken Venturi

 

Paul Duski
Senior Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Learn from the mistakes of others. You can’t live long enough to make them all yourself.”
― Eleanor Roosevelt

 

Bert Allen
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Aim for the moon. If you miss, you may hit a star.”
― W. Clement Stone

 

Rick Canada
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could. Some blunders and absurdities no doubt crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; begin it well and serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.”
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

 

Christy Glick
Director of Communications and Projects, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Setting goals is the first step in turning the invisible into the visible.”
― Tony Robbins

 

Stefany Alvear
EA Client Services & Marketing Manager, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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Kenna Washington Robertson Lowstuter

“We keep moving forward, opening new doors, and doing new things, because we’re curious and curiosity keeps leading us down new paths.”
― Walt Disney

 

Kenna Washington
Vice President of Finance and IT, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.


Best wishes for an empowered New Year in 2019 and may you always…
“Create Uncommon Results”®

Sincerely,

The R|L Team

Coaching Tips for Your Holiday Parties

Happy Holidays!

As the year ends, we think about all we are grateful for. We extend our best wishes and genuine gratitude to those who have contributed to our firm’s 37 years of success. We have been truly blessed with so many opportunities to interact with and serve talented people across all disciplines of our executive development consultancy.

During this joyous time, you might be attending different events with family, friends, and colleagues. Our executive and career coaches want to provide you with some helpful tips on how to enhance these events as you continue to expand and strengthen your network.

Here is what to do (and not do) at the next holiday party:


“Be Other-Focused rather than Self-Focused at your next holiday gathering. Rather than seeking to tell all about your notable successes, be insatiably curious about others. You might ask about significant learning or results they achieved. Ask penetrating questions that demonstrate that you are deeply interested in them. Also, be enthused for their successes.”

Clyde Lowstuter
President & CEO, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Be inclusive and widen your circle of conversation… Introduce others who are standing nearby to your friends and colleagues. That will naturally expand the topics of conversation.”

Carolyn Lowstuter
Executive Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Help others without expectations of reciprocity – you will be pleasantly surprised. Share useful information and insights (e.g., articles, videos, TED talk links, seminars, best practices, heroes of the day, etc.). Interact with those it can help/inspire. If you can, maintain notes of when you talked and what it was about.”

Ron Hirasawa
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“You might (mistakenly) view a holiday party as a great opportunity to tell your story and MARKET yourself to many people. Pause, take a breath, and re-evaluate. Yes, the party is an opportunity to meet key people, but the marketing/relationship building really starts after the party. Here are 3 suggestions for how you ‘follow up’ after the party:

  1. Connect on LinkedIn within 48 hours after the party;
  2. Call and set up a time to meet for a brief coffee or a meal;
  3. Thank someone who provided you with an introduction and provide an update on your next steps.

Good luck!

Kathryn Hartrick
VP & General Counsel, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“The holiday season is a time when we are all reminded of the importance of our relationships. It is a time for family and friends, and a time when we are most congenial with business colleagues and associates. So importantly, this is a good time to remind ourselves that it is our relationships – all year long – that sustain us and facilitate our ability to be effective. Even a team is just a collection of one-on-one relationships!”

Dave Dallam
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“After being acquainted ask, ‘How can I help you?’ By offering help, you have established generosity, openness, and authenticity as the meeting protocol. While, of course, there is no guarantee of reciprocity, you have set the tone and increased the chances for a mutually beneficial exchange.”

Susan Snowden
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Never go to a party (or meeting) without knowing all you can learn about the person you are meeting. Make reference to a compatibility or an interesting fact about them and integrate it into the conversation.”

Matt Gonring
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“When meeting someone for the first time, enter their information into your email contacts. In the Notes section, write any information you gleaned from your conversation – family, interests, pets, school, etc. Next time you talk, you’ll be able to review your ‘Cliff Notes’ and be able to pick up where you left off. Keep adding information as your relationship grows. If you are afraid of forgetting, use the Notes app on your phone and dictate a quick reminder to yourself.”

Pat Mater
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Spend no more than 7 minutes with any one person. With each new interaction, the mindset is to make a new friend.”

David Filkin
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Holiday time is to remember how blessed we are and think of others in need of help and support. In your holiday gathering, search out individuals who you think can use a kind ear and start a conversation on how they are and how you can help.”

Anil Shah
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Introduce yourself with a positive attitude. Everyone you meet could be a potential acquaintance. Your conversation should be focused on the person you’re speaking with – show genuine interest in their lives, interests, and careers. Trust will develop from there. Good luck and most of all – have fun!”

Laurie Powles
EA/Office Manager, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.


“Make yourself memorable! Be thoughtful ahead of the event about a few stimulating and exciting topics that will be appropriate for a social evening. Perhaps you’ve just seen a new Broadway show, traveled to an interesting country, volunteered at a non-profit you’re passionate about, or read a wonderful book. When you follow up to arrange for a ‘real’ networking meeting subsequent to the party, the individuals you met will be eager to connect with you.”

Sharon Noha
Senior Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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  • “Remember everyone you meet is a potential friend or colleague. Always be prepared; how are you perceived? Don’t be the ‘party animal’ – first impressions LAST.
  • When meeting many people during the evening, get to know them. If they are in your same profession, or a consultant in your space, follow up later to schedule a meeting.
  • Be comfortable with your brand statement. You will probably be asked: ‘What do you do?’ or ‘Tell me about yourself.’”

Paul Duski
Senior Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Now that we are in the holiday season, set an objective to establish at least one new relationship from every holiday party you attend.”

Bert Allen
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Regardless of who you’re talking to, the setting, or its purpose, be intentional about remaining open to what you’re hearing and the associated learning. Bottom line, be willing to be influenced by others’ perspectives.”

Rick Canada
Vice President, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Enjoy the moment – stop and take a second to look around; appreciate the people you already know or will meet, and the chance to celebrate together.”

Christy Glick
Director of Communications and Projects, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
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“Have an open-minded, value-add attitude during your conversations. Be warm and inviting to learn about others’ favorite restaurants or jazz clubs. Expand on people’s ideas using a ‘Yes, AND’ approach. The tone of the conversations will inevitably be engaging and authentic.”

Stefany Alvear
EA Client Services & Marketing Manager, Robertson Lowstuter, Inc.
Connect with Stefany on LinkedIn


We wish you happy holidays and much success in the New Year! May you always…
“Create Uncommon Results”®

Sincerely,

Clyde and Carolyn and the R|L Team

6 Signs that You’re Burned Out

Clyde C. Lowstuter

All of us are wired.  We’re synched up.  Hardwired.  Your computer, tablet, e-reader, cell phone, car, home thermostat, security system, and every electronic device that you own has an operating system. Your many OS’s need to be upgraded from time to time to maintain optimal performance.  Likewise, you also have well-developed operating systems – physiologically, behaviorally, emotionally, and psychologically – that require adjustments for you to operate smoothly, lest you get fried.

Each of us is hardwired a little differently and it requires a nuanced approach in order to live an optimal existence. It’s crucial to pay attention when you are stressed or anxious. It may be time to reflect and calibrate how you’re thinking, feeling, and behaving.

You’re Burned Out If You Are:

  1. Agitated, nervous, and exhausted most of the time.
  2. Angry toward everyone and everything and you don’t know why.
  3. Oblivious to the most obvious behavioral clues that you’re out of control.
  4. Feeling rudderless and uncertain about how to act or even what to say at times.
  5. Experiencing an undercurrent of helplessness and zero energy.
  6. Generally unproductive and lacking creativity, on or off the job.

The key to extinguishing your burnout is to immerse yourself in the core beliefs that ground you, while focusing on the underlying values that give you purpose and direction.  Scrutinize the things that have been profoundly important to you and have brought you joy and deep peace.  Maybe you need to lighten up and give yourself permission to take a break . . . or a nap. It may even be time to hang up your Super Hero cape!

To function effectively with others it is critical that you become increasingly self-aware and mindful of what you are thinking and feeling, and how you are behaving.  When I was working on my newest book 35 Truths last year I unintentionally upgraded my own OS.  While the purpose of writing the book was to identify significant learnings over R|L’s 35 years, I received much more.  After combing through years of my R|L speeches, workshops, manuals, and books, I had a huge list of important core values. When I narrowed this list to the top 35, I found myself reigniting around those values.

I felt an increased sense of being even more grounded and authentic . . . and more anchored in my beliefs.  My profound revelation was that we all need to take the time to reboot our beliefs and values.  We must take control of those dysfunctional behavior instant replays that undermine our personal power and effectiveness.  Doing so will reinvigorate our drive and solidify our ability to avoid burnout.

Best wishes for your continued success and may you always . . .
“Create Uncommon Results!”® 

Grow Where You’re Planted

By Clyde C. Lowstuter

I often find myself caught in the paradox of patience versus action. On one hand, patience is often the key to breakthrough insights and aids coaching clients in their life/career transformations. When working with others it is easy to see how slowing down helps them to explore the nuances of their interpersonal relationships and life aspirations. Change takes time. On the other hand, I can be really impatient with myself. When I set a goal, I am itching to act. I want to do more in less time.

My recent book, 35 Truths, took much longer than I thought. 35 perspectives – what’s the big deal? I live and breathe this stuff; I can whip the book out over a long weekend! 18 months later, it was done and I couldn’t be more proud.

Recently, I was juggling several demanding projects and I found myself growing frustrated with the time/action paradox of my own making. During a trip to visit our West Coast family, I walked along a path in the bamboo forest in Huntington Botanical Gardens. The bamboo grove towers 70 feet into the sky, blocking out the afternoon sun.

Bamboo

While I was there, I learned that some bamboo varietals often take 5 years or more after planting before above-ground growth appears. Before the plant can shoot skyward it must develop a significant root structure to support its pending massive growth spurt of more than 7 feet per year. That day I slowed down – and in the quiet, still space of the bamboo forest, I remembered that many things in life take time to develop and we can’t always rush that growth.

This type of slow but steady growth may resonate with you; nurturing and achieving mastery is more than merely putting in the time. Rather, you get to create your own significant root structure – by exploring, experimenting, examining, and evaluating.

How to start? Take a deep breath and lighten up. Learn to acknowledge and appreciate the patience of waiting for growth over time. When it does come, you’ll appreciate it much more. Indeed, your performance or career breakthroughs may not occur in years one, two, or three. Your massive epiphanies and peak performance may be in your fifth year. Slow down to soak up profound learnings, whenever they may be, so you may grow ever stronger and contribute more significantly to those around you. Best wishes for your root structure!